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BLOG: Is social media making us anti-social?

(Corey Schmidt | WBTV) (Corey Schmidt | WBTV)

 I had no idea this photo was being taken. Which is the entire problem.

Saturday morning in San Francisco, WBTV photographer Corey Schmidt and I were getting breakfast before a marathon work day. Only instead of eating, I was posting a picture on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. I was also emailing a quick blog to Just real fast, you know?

It was justified in my mind. We’d run into an adorable and happy DeAngelo Williams?. I immediately wanted to share his smile and pink dreads. I wanted to be socially fun. I wanted you guys to know DeAngelo was enjoying life at Super Bowl 50.

In an effort to do that, I was letting my omelet go cold and ignoring my friend.

In an effort to be social, I was being completely anti-social.

Had Corey not taken this picture, I would’ve never realized.

It's twisted. It’s rude. I don’t like it.

It's not new news Americans are wholly dependent on their phones. What I've started studying -- since seeing myself in this picture -- is how people use their phones when with other people.

Every time we'd walk into our bustling hotel lobby last week you could count on two things: HEARING loud chatter and SEEING people look down. If you walked by a group you heard words fall out of mouths, but the person talking was rarely looking at the person with whom they were speaking. They were instead looking at their phone.

We’re no longer talking with people. We’re staring at screens, while ignoring faces in front of us.

I’m a culprit. This picture says it all.

Corey snapped it to be funny. He says he didn’t care I was on my phone. I believe him. As people who work in the communication field, we’re used to watching each other “communicate” with audiences we can’t see.

But his picture jogged something in my brain. It made me realize how much face-to-face talk is being sacrificed.

It was definitely more prevalent last week where everyone was coordinating logistics in a crowded big city. I admit that. But after mulling this thought around I know it’s not just a work-trip thing. People focus on phones first and foremost.  With family. When out with friends. When riding in cars. Even when walking down a hallway.

It's an accepted bad habit.

I think we're often doing it because the person beside us just acted the same way.

I love social media – especially Facebook – and am not going anywhere. I'm here for the long haul. But I love people and actual conversation, too.

Starting now, I’ll be more conscious about looking into eyes and valuing both.

Thank you, Cores.

- Molly

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